What is involved?
We come to your organisation, school or work place to speak with your people. We tailor our talks to the audience, your audience, including discussing with you beforehand what your needs are, and what you would like us to discuss.
We have been doing these talks for over five years. We have spoken to a number of different types of organisations, and we can tailor the talks to suit your needs. You can read what others think of our talks by clicking on the link to client testimonials in the side bar, or here.
If we are talking to a younger audience we can talk very generically about respect and relationships without having to talk about romantic relationships or sexual relationships. The concept of respect and treating each other with respect should be observable in all human interaction, so we can speak to the particular concerns or problems of our audience and try to encourage them to define respect, and look for that respectful behaviour in everything they see around them.
We start almost every talk with asking our audience to define the word 'respect', because it is a word that many of us use but few of us can apply to ourselves. Many school or business motto's include the word respect and yet when asked to define it a lot of people struggle.
The original No Respect, No Relationship campaign
Most people have seen the advertising with the slogan “To Violence Against Women, Australia Says No’. Originally it was going to be titled ‘No Respect, No Relationship’ but was, for some reason, changed at the last minute.
The original campaign was aimed at young people of both genders to help them to understand that emotional, physical and sexual violence are unacceptable.
The campaign was going to have TV adds, and also a youth communication strategy including a radio series and sponsorship of youth events, online resources and also a school curriculum. The communication objectives included teaching young men that violence and control are not okay, that women don’t want violence or control, and teaching both genders that emotional abuse needs to be taken seriously.
We don't have these resources (like TV adds) but we can talk to your organisation about the original intention of the campaign, that is the important of respect in relationships.
Getting involved once the violence has started is only secondary prevention, saying no to violence against women is important, but it is only part of the picture. Expecting and giving respect in any relationship, intimate or otherwise, is primary prevention that prepares people to be part of healthier relationships, and hopefully reduces the risk of remaining in a relationship that will end in family violence.
There are many types of family violence, including emotional, economic, and psychological, as well as physical and sexual. Usually, the physical and sexual violence occurs after the abuser has laid some ground work, often using one of the other forms of family violence, such as or controlling or manipulative behaviour. Teaching people to identify this behaviour may help them to get out of the situation in the earlier stages, or it might give them the confidence to know that this behaviour is not loving behaviour.
If nothing else, expecting and giving respect to people in relationships will form stronger, more beneficial relationships.
We cannot give you a checklist for what is and is not a 'red flag' for a dangerous relationship, but we can help your organisation to begin to critically analyse relationships from the framework of respect, to see disrespectful behaviour if it is occurring around them, and to think for themselves how they might deal with disrespectful behaviour when it happens to them. We try to make our talks interactive, getting the participants to answer our questions, propose definitions and propose solutions (with guidance) but the level of interaction does depend largely on the people present.
If you would like to book a free No Respect, No Relationship talk for your school, community group or work place, or if you have any questions about our talk, please contact Janis today.
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